A teenager from Margate is desperate to return to the isle after being moved into emergency accommodation 60 miles away in Gravesend.
Alexi Price, 18, says she knows no-one in the town, has never been there before and is unable to access a GP for her medication.
Alexi has a lack of family support because she is a foster care leaver and as a transgender woman she is also dealing with her transition with little guidance.
After leaving foster care Alexi was in various supported living placements in Dover, Ramsgate and Canterbury but says there have been many challenges, some due to being transgender and others arising from friction within the foster and supported living system.
Finding herself homeless she turned to Thanet council for help and was initially placed in Margate’s Florence Court Hotel but Alexi says an incident of a person attempting, and then succeeding, to enter her room by forcing the door key out and then unlocking it, left her feeling too unsafe to remain. The incident was reported to Kent Police.
A Kent Police spokesperson said: “Kent Police was called at 10.45pm on Saturday 17 September following concerns raised by an 18-year-old woman at a hotel in Cliftonville. An officer later attended the hotel and spoke to the woman. She was given safety advice and no criminal offences were identified.”
Emergency accommodation was found but Thanet council says sites within the district are ‘limited’ meaning some people have to be housed out of the area.
Alexi said: “I don’t know anyone in Gravesend and do not know the area but there were no places in Thanet I could go. I haven’t got any family support and I only have a small circle of friends.
“Because I’ve been moved out the area the doctors are now refusing my meds and have taken me off the list.
“I now have no meds for my depression unless I call 111 as it is too hard to register to a GP, let alone book an appointment.
“I’ve ended up so lonely and feel so unsafe once again, I have got myself a dog to keep me company and to spend my life with, I’ve been told I am not allowed to keep him in the building but I am not going to get rid of Milo, he is my only family and in the past few days has made me feel more loved and appreciated and happier and safer than I’ve ever felt in my entire life.”
Alexi says there has been some support from Kent County Council and a meeting to discuss trying to find a placement in or near Thanet. However, her 18-plus worker has been on leave and she says other social care staff have told her it could “be several months” before new accommodation is found and have asked her to consider moving to Maidstone or Tunbridge Wells.
Alexi says she also has had to figure out her transition alone due to no communication following a referral to the Tavistock Clinic, which is UK’s only dedicated gender identity clinic for children and young people.
More confusion has followed after the news that Tavistock’s Gender Identity Development Service, is due to close in Spring next year and be replaced by regional centres.
Alexi said: “I started transitioning in December 2020 and have not had any help or heard anything back from Tavistock as that’s something social services said they would do for me.
“Everything I have done during my transition has been off my own back and with my own money. I’ve grown my hair out, changed my dress sense multiple times and also made it apparent to the public. I am in the process of training my voice myself.
“I have no knowledge of transgender or the LGBTQ+ community as I was brought up by my dad who was very against any of it.
“From a young age I always knew I wanted to be a girl and always used to say it to some but with my family I would try not to make it obvious, but they knew.
“I later had a foster dad who had best intentions at heart but would try and get me to change my decision and would stop me doing certain things and question my appearance. The rest of the family were quite lovely and wanted to support me and talk about it all and helped me get a job.”
Alexi says another placement was with a family who culturally could not accept LGBTQ+
She said: “I was told to cover my hair with towels so the daughter didn’t see and would also be told to shave if the slightest bit of stubble was on show, I felt very uncomfortable.
“Being in the area alone I felt inclined to go out every day and keep busy, whether that was sitting in Costa for hours, going on multiple sunbeds, getting beauty treatments done or simply sitting by the beach or going for long walks.
“I was using social media to find people in my area to meet up with and communicate and try and socialise which brought me in some positive and negative situations. I then started going out a lot during the week and on a Saturday and underage drinking and using illegal substances, some of which being influenced by negative people I had met. I put myself in a lot of dangerous situations.”
Alexi was moved to several supported living sites but eventually began staying with friends until going to the council for help.
Her current accommodation is a studio flat but she says there are some issues with the cleanliness of the block which had blood smeared on the walls when she arrived.
Alexi now wants to return to Thanet, where she had a job and a small group of friends, but does not know when or if this will be possible. She also works in online sales for a well-known brand but the most recent disruptions have limited her ability to do this.
“Placements within the district are limited”
A Thanet council spokesperson said: “We are not able to comment about the details of individual cases. In general however, if we accept an application for housing from a care leaver, we then have a duty of care to provide them with temporary accommodation. We make every effort to ensure that this is provided within Thanet. We also work with the care leaver and any support network to ensure that suitable accommodation is offered and that the individual receives appropriate support.
“The type, location and quantity of emergency accommodation that we can access varies day by day. Placements within the district are limited and options are more varied and numerous outside Thanet. Our aim is always to move households who have been placed outside of the district back into Thanet as soon as possible.
“Temporary accommodation is provided until the household is either successful in bidding for a social rented tenancy on our housing register, or finds an alternative private sector home.”
Thanet council receives around 1,000 homelessness applications each year. The council is landlord of 3034 properties but demand outstrips supply. The authority has 1,740 households on the housing register waiting for an affordable rented home. Of these 923 are individuals and 817 are families.
In June Thanet council said there were 181 households in temporary accommodation, with 96 housed outside Thanet.
Support
Kent County Council says support is being offered and it is hoped that suitable accommodation will be found shortly.
A KCC spokesperson said: “We prefer not to comment in detail on individual cases. However, we can say that our 18-plus Care Leavers service works with young people to provide the most appropriate support for them.
“We hope that Alexi’s current accommodation needs will be resolved shortly. In the meantime, she is receiving regular support from her personal advisor to help meet her needs.”
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Wow really upsets me in this day and age that the poor girl does not get the support she needs 😔
Sad in so many ways.
“LGBTQ2+”? First time I’ve seen the “2”, what does it mean?
An acronym that stands for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer or Questioning, and Two-Spirit.
“Two-Spirit”? You mean like a cocktail?
Seriously, what on EARTH does that mean?!
Peter – Apparently there is now a list of 100 genders or gender identities that you can choose from. I don’t understand any of it either. Humanity has become too sophisticated for its own good.
Whilst I can appreciate those who may have personal desires to be male, female and/or transgender, and those who have preferences as to their partners identity – too many choices only go to make their lives even more traumatic and confusing.
A leading expert who promotes/pushes this stuff in Universities etc when asked by I think The Times this year or last to name all 150 or whatever gender identities she & her buddies claim to exist & yet not known to or recognised by actual science(male, female & rarely intersex) got about 40 & then she gave up.
Just shows if an ‘expert’ in it cannot even get 30% what a joke it all is & how on earth is anybody else supposed to keep up with the ever changing alphabet game? Now they are using numbers, eventually they will have to start using symbols, maybe even make up their own ones like Esperanto?
Just telling you what it stands for, I imagine it can be looked up.
From Wikipedia:
“Two-spirit (also two spirit, 2S or, occasionally, twospirited) is a modern, pan-Indian, umbrella term used by some Indigenous North Americans to describe Native people in their communities who fulfill a traditional third-gender (or other gender-variant) ceremonial and social role in their cultures.”
Very relevant to Thanet then…
Maybe it doesn’t need the 2 on the end then
peter checksfield
October 9, 2022 at 2:05 pm
From Wikipedia:
“Two-spirit (also two spirit, 2S or, occasionally, twospirited) is a modern, pan-Indian, umbrella term used by some Indigenous North Americans to describe Native people in their communities who fulfill a traditional third-gender (or other gender-variant) ceremonial and social role in their cultures.”
Very relevant to Thanet then…
Isn’t that cultural misappropriation? Why are these non native people using terms that are Native American? What was that Bobby Brown song? Two Can Play That (very silly) Game.
Problem is Peter they have run out of letters of the alphabet, so are now having to use numbers.
Peter it means the world 🌎 has gone mad completely, the world is well and truly mental
Yep, the once great Stonewall now telling parents their two year old kids are trapped in the wrong body & even more recently The ‘Mermaids’ charity supplying teens with chest binders-against the parents wishes.
Quite amazing how actual child abuse is being encouraged & promoted as being normal by the government, large swathes of the media, Civil Service, Police, NHS etc in recent years. How men could just put on a skirt one day, claim to be a woman & be given access to women’s facilities, how morbid obesity acceptance with 500 pound women telling you they are healthy & no doctor can ever bring up their weight at a consultation about their obesity caused problems ever got any kind of traction etc.
One does hope that at some point in the not too distant future people & organisations will look back & say how did the world/we lose our minds like we did for so many years, but maybe it will just get worse, like everything else in the world.
A sad story but this person is 18 so no reason they can’t get a job and work. Why does the council have to provide everything?
She has had jobs in Thanet and other placement areas but obviously can’t travel from Gravesend for a minimum wage job in Thanet. She also works in online sales but needs wi-fi to do this and, of course, a home to work from home in
Fingers crossed Alexi finds accommodation where she will be happy.
I Agree with Ewan, and this thread is about a person, a human being, Alexi is first and foremost a human (forget the initials) and should be treated as such!
That looks like trouble from the very start
I’m closing this thread. This article is about a young person and the situation they are trying to deal with. It is about an individual who has no basic family support, it is not about what is right or wrong with Stonewall etc. Please think that this young person will be seeing these comments and whether what you are saying is actually helpful in any way.